by Reddit users supported a stepmom’s act to cut her stepson’s long hair after the boy asked for a buzz cut – but all was not well in this scenario, as the child’s mother wasn’t too thrilled about what happened.
“AITA for shaving my stepson’s long hair without his mother’s permission?” asked Reddit user “Logical-Mulberry-883” in a March 17 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A—–e” subreddit.
In the post, the Reddit explained that she and her husband have three sons together, ages 5, 4, and 2, and that she also has two stepsons: a 13-year-old and a 10-year-old.
They have shared custody of those boys with the children’s mother, she said.
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“I cut my kids’ hair myself, and my stepsons get their hair cut at a hairdresser when their mom has custody,” explains Logical-Mulberry-883, with the boys getting a haircut “once in a while” when they’re at be their father.
On “Wednesday afternoon I decided to get my 4 and 5 year olds haircut,” the mom wrote.
Her 10-year-old stepson then requested that she also cut his hair, she said.
The Reddit user said she normally cuts her sons’ hair — and when her stepson (not pictured) asked if she’d give him a new haircut, too, she went ahead and cut the 10-year-old’s hair. (iStock)
“His hair was currently shoulder length and he had been growing it for some time,” she wrote. “He wanted me to give him a buzzcut.”
After confirming that her stepson was sure she wanted his hair cut, she asked her husband if she would mind if she cut the boy’s hair.
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“My husband asked me to wait until he got home so he could watch and record it,” said Logical-Mulberry-883.
And so, “when he got home, I shaved it and [the stepson] was very happy with the result.”
The mother told the stepmother that “I had no right to cut her son’s hair without her permission.”
However, her stepson’s mother was not in the same mood.
“She immediately called my husband and was [angry] about the haircut,” said Logical-Mulberry-883.
Later that night she texted me… to challenge me and say that I had no right to cut her son’s hair without her permission and that it was a big change and that I shouldn’t have done it impulsively.”
The boy’s mother was angry that the stepmother had cut her son’s long hair into a buzzcut without her knowledge. (iStock)
Logical-Mulberry-883 said she did not respond to messages from her stepson’s mother because she “didn’t want to experience any drama”.
She wrote to others on Reddit, “I thought [my] stepson was happy with his haircut and that’s all that really matters,” she said — but she’s since reconsidered the situation.
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“The more I think about it, the more I doubt she’s right,” she said.
“If my son had a stepmom and came home with a drastically different haircut, I think maybe I would [have] I have also been upset and may think that person has crossed an unspoken line,” she wrote.
She then asked others if she was wrong in her actions.
A Reddit user feared she had crossed an “unwritten line” by cutting off her stepson’s hair. Typically, she said, her stepsons get their hair cut at barbershops. But this time, her 10-year-old stepson asked her to do it – so after consulting her husband (the boy’s father), she went ahead and did it. (iStock)
In a follow-up comment to the post, Logical-Mulberry-883 clarified that long hair held no cultural significance whatsoever for her stepsons.
Fox News Digital reached out to the original Reddit poster for comment.
On the AITA subreddit, people on Reddit can comment on posts and indicate that the poster reads “NTA” (“Not the A—–e”), “YTA” (“You’re the A—–e “), “NAH” (“No A—–e here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone sucks here”).
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Users can “upvote” comments they think are helpful and “downvote” those that aren’t.
In this scenario, the majority of the 800+ answers supported Logical-Mulberry-883 – and were more critical of her husband for not telling his ex-wife about the haircut.
The majority of the more than 800 comments on the Reddit post were supportive, saying a 10-year-old can define their own hairstyle. (Getty Image)
“You got permission from his dad, and he’s old enough to make his own decisions about his hair anyway,” Reddit user “Outrageously_Penguin” wrote in the most voted answer.
“It would have been weird if you called his mom and asked after his dad already told him to go ahead,” said the same commenter.
Another top comment praised Logical-Mulberry-883 for avoiding drama with her stepson’s mother.
“NTA. Your stepson asked you to give him a buzzcut and you asked him if he was sure and got confirmation from his dad,” said a Redditor with the username “The_IT_Dude.”
The woman said her stepson (not pictured) was happy with his new short haircut. And finally the boy asked her to have it cut – and she first inquired with the boy’s father, who approved. (iStock)
“It sounds like your stepson was very happy with the result and that should be the most important thing,” said the user.
“It’s understandable that his mom was upset, but it’s not like you made the decision without talking to anyone. You also didn’t participate in a drama, which is always a good thing,” The_IT_Dude added.
Others were critical of Logical-Mulberry-883 for not taking the time to contact the boy’s mother.
“I don’t think this is popular, but I think YTA. Or at least problematic,” said Reddit user “Active_Visual_1942.”
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“Getting a haircut without telling her is one thing, but getting a haircut on shoulder-length hair without at least telling her [the] mother shows a lack of respect for her as a parenting partner,” the user said.
“This one is on your man.”
This person added, “Even as a married person, I wouldn’t make a decision to seriously change my child’s appearance without notifying my husband.”
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Another user was more concise.
“NTA,” wrote a Reddit user named “poeadam.”
“This one is on your man.”
